Have you ever ask yourself why do things happen to me? Why is it my fault? I a good person.
You have to learn to let go, even when you don't want to. Being an enabler is wrong but we're good hearted people and you always give the benefit of a doubt to a saituation so you hang on for a little longer, almost death grip like. it can come from family ,friends, work etc.. at what cost does that bring you happiness. It will cost you sooner or later. When you enable and have fill acknowledge of that ,it's actually worse than the person committed whatever acts or behavior traits displayed.
We cannot blame others for our upbringing, our choices , our mindset. All you can do is change it.. I come from a family of drugs, crime, abuse you name it was there, but it didn't make me be that person who had the violin playing because I wasn't a victim in my eyes, but you have some who will play that tune to hook you in and use that till they have exhausted you mentally, sometimes physically.
I just chose a different ,I am who I am because I had to realize that route wasn't meant for me to take... I wasn't deprived a childhood but it wasn't all what you see on tv. Our problems weren't resolved in 30 minutes to an hour.
Development is an everyday thing ,doesn't stop at puberty, you have opportunities to correct and fix mistakes, from a simple apology to correction in your behavior and ways..
Our minds get so fixated on habits we've learned it becomes down right normal , so why fix it right? Wrong and us as enablers need to quit making excuses and validate their wrongs just because and going along with the get along is not wise.
I've cut off alot of people for this same reason , I've in my lifetime enabled alot of people and it came a point and time I had to say no more .. when you enable and taste the recipe of disaster and disappointment you ,yourself had a hand in, you'll soon learn to stop...
Xoxo ❤
Quita
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