Hey, Hey, Hey
talking to a few friends , some are bored and looking for things to do including people.
OH MY!!
We all have put up that funny MEME about relationships but in seriousness don't go looking for things or revert back to old habits or even past relationships ,Playing that "hey stranger or "remember when" email, text ,messenger, however you choosing to communicate.
People do things seldom out of second nature bad habits/traits they've had or once displayed once upon a time. Don't do that to person you chose to commit too, don't do it to a single person who have taken you signs you've thrown out there that you're looking, when in fact your not, that's how shit starts..
Here, then, are my 6 Uncomfortable Truths About Love in Quarantine, culled from that conversation.
1. THINGS CHANGE. Just weeks ago, if you had a fight with your significant other, you could dress up, hit the street with your friends and post provocative pics all night. Now, there’s nowhere to go and be petty; this is especially true if you live together. If an argument breaks out, quarantine forces you to sit there and discuss it, because it’s just the two of you against the whole COVID-19 infected world.
What to do: Discuss the issue rationally, and with empathy for your lover’s perspective. Call a marriage counselor or trusted friend to mediate. Work together to create a plan to overcome the issue. Never go to bed angry.
2. THINGS GET REAL. No one will dare say that the heart of a woman is found in the arms of a lover, but the onset of Coronavirus and folks raiding the grocery stores really put singlehood into perspective for some of us. The “I’m a strong woman and don’t need no man,” types are now rethinking relationships, as no one wants to face the apocalypse alone.
What to do: Calm down. Only get into a relationship if you truly want to build a life with someone. Thirsting for love just for short-term protection or financial security rarely works out. If you are looking for love, connect with your circle of friends and get the lead on a few great catches. Also, consider online dating.
3. THINGS GET REVEALED. Your side-dude will NOT respect your boundaries in the age of Coronavirus; when he runs out of toilet paper, he’s calling your phone — and your main dude will find out. Why? Because there are no secrets inside the quarantine zone (see point #1).
What to do: Unfortunately ghosting him isn’t an option. You can risk everything by helping your side dude out in his time of need; you can tell the truth when you get exposed for cheating; or, you can let your phone die and pray that your side dude doesn’t know where you live. May the force be with you, Queen.
4. THINGS GET TIGHT. What’s NOT cute is not knowing how to prepare meals that last when the money gets tight.
What to do: Stock non-perishable foods, i.e., beans, rice, energy bars, peanut butter, jelly, crackers, canned meat, salt, pepper, sugar, canned fruits and veggies. Also, stock foods for special diets. And call a family member or search online for tasty, budget-family recipes.
5. THINGS FALL APART. For some divas, the quarantine also means no hair and nail appointments. And this couldn’t have happened at a worse time; when your nails need a fill in and your new growth is poking out of your hat — and your lover is stuck in the house watching your dire transformation.
What to do: If your acrylic nails are more than two weeks old, soak them off to avoid nail fungus. Order cute press-on nails that last a week; or paint them yourself. Contact your stylist about the best option to keep your hair healthy; or visit YouTube University to learn how to sew weaves and make wigs yourself. Whatever you do, keep yourself groomed to bring normalcy to this crazy situation.
6. THINGS COME TOGETHER. This quarantine has humbled us; it has stripped us naked of everyday pleasures and escapes and it is outright frightening. Yet, this predicament also has the power to transform us for the better.
Inside this quarantine, the goal isn’t the competitive fake it til you make it, instead, it’s working together to secure our household and community. Inside this quarantine, we don’t use self-brands and social media personas to promote and alter ourselves, instead, we share our struggles and pro-life tips that allow our authentic selves to rise to the surface. Of course, there are some selfish ones that take pleasure in hoarding and putting others at risk, but they are in the minority.
I’m confident that when the quarantine ends, we will be better humans and will build stronger, more meaningful relationships, because the №1 lesson this global pandemic has taught us is that we’re all we’ve got.
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